So for my second day of quotes I chose from one of my favorite books of all time Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte that I’ve read at least three or four times (or at least it feels that way…perhaps I haven’t).
“I care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself.”
― Charlotte Brontë,
Not quite the same profound quality as De Profundis, but it is one of my favorite books, and I have always related to Jane in feeling quite passed over at times. I’ve felt like her in terms of having to make choices where I’ve either had to choose to be nice to someone else or not allow myself to be treated like a doormat. And this year in particular I’ve tried to be better at respecting myself. I’ve tried to remember that I matter too. And in this moment where Jane wonders if she should simply give in because no one cares about her, she realizes how important it is to care about yourself.
So I suppose all that’s left to say is this is important. You must care for yourself. Even if no one else does. Even if other people around you constantly treat you like you don’t matter. You need to know you matter. Self-worth is just so incredibly important. And if a character like Jane who was abandoned by her only family, and abused in school, and made fun of by wealthy ladies can have some sense of self-respect, then so can you.
I’m not saying to be a jerk. I’m saying, like Jane, recognize moments when people are treating you wrong and don’t let them. Recognize when you need to walk away from relationships. Recognize when you deserve an apology and shouldn’t compromise on getting one. Let yourself be bold and brave and unwilling to back down sometimes. There are moments for forgiveness and passive behavior. And there are moments you need to stand up and say no.
For today I tag Natalie at Fluent Historian. She’s a wonderful blogger who writes on history and writing. She makes beautiful observations about the world! Anyhow, the rules are that you post three quotes in three days, tagging one person each day. Obviously, anyone I tag is under no obligation to actually do the challenge, and anyone I don’t tag is free to do it if they wish!
So, short post, but I wanted to put this up. Honestly, I wish I read more books with beautiful, meaningful quotes. But this one is just one of my favorites regardless.
Any favorite quotes to share with me for non-tagged readers? Any thoughts on self-respect? Any thoughts on being bold and balancing that with being kind? Any fellow Jane Eyre lovers want to speak about what you love in this book?